I never imagined to be standing here, in the sympathy
section of the greeting card aisle. I’ve spent 5 minutes reading postcards and none
of them seem to fit your loss. There is no greeting card that can describe
sympathy over the pain of loosing what could have been but never was. As if your
grief is not real or legitimate and you should carry on.
You might think there is no other choice but to mourn on
your own. Those around do not understand and perhaps don’t want to do so. People
measure love based on how many hugs and kisses are given, or how many wonderful
moments have been shared. You never got to do that, yet you loved. Unconditionally.
Since the moment you knew, you just loved. That love grew every day and every
heartbeat. It was a gift suddenly taken away by fate.
Silence is preferred in this kind of loss. Not for those who
lose, but everyone that surrounds them. It’s a reminder of disappointment and how
we cannot control everything in our lives. We fear the unknown and failing. It’s
frightening and heartbreaking to have to hopes and dreams shattered and picking
up the pieces is exhausting. It can be an unbearable pain. The kind of pain
that makes you think that feeling hopeful, dreaming and loving again is
impossible.
I may never share your loss, but I do understand and have
felt disappointment. I can help you break the silence. I will listen to you
when it seems it’s just you and your echo. I will try my best to help you pick
up the pieces and remind you to not be scared to try again. Because I know of the immense love you like to
share, and how you deserve to bring life to this world.
“Cookie cutter” greeting cards may not exist to describe sympathy
over the loss of a loved unborn. So, I
write my own.
With all my love and sympathy,
N
**If you read this post and want to write, “I am sorry”,
please don’t. However, if you know someone who has been or is going through
this case, support them. Call them or text them to tell a joke and brighten their
day a little bit. Have empathy and try to understand their grieving process. But
most of all, be open to listen whenever it is necessary.
